Creating A Game Change Situation Using The Law Of Abundance

When one puts oneself out as being an ‘expert’ in anything, one invites every opportunity to be discovered as being faulty in that area of expertise.

Aware of this, I am OK with putting myself out on the world as being a stand for integrity. I could think of no greater personal game change. It is my wish to be held to the highest account, by others, as well as myself, even when that lesson hurts. The act of declaring integrity invites a daily personal total transformation program that is constantly being upgraded.

I certainly never claim to be perfect. Far from it, I am a deeply flawed human struggling to integrate all aspects of myself, like us all. I am prone to anger, have insecurities, and can be lacking in the awareness of the impact of my words and actions.

I have a love of learning, and of sharing that learning. I actively seek a game change. One of my business partners in The Constellation has taught me a great lesson this week about using the law of abundance as part of a game change. I have written a parallel article about this here, and will continue to write more about this process in reference to working with the creative impulse. (For those of you interested in creativity innovation, check it out.) However, in this blog I am applying this lesson to a more personal area.

Recently I was in a situation where it became apparent that I was getting increasingly frustrated. I was working with a group of people in a team effort, and one of those people had decided to dig his heels in and refuse a form of support. Finally after this went on for some time, my frustration turned to anger and I blew up. I wanted to know why support was not willing to be taken. I wanted to understand. I also wanted the situation to be different. My expectations were not being met. No reason was offered, and there was an absolute refusal for support to be supplied, no matter how much I appealed. This did nothing to help my anger. I felt completely helpless and useless. The situation definitely called for a game change. I had the ability to provide support, but not the permission to. It felt like there was nothing I could do except give up and quit.

Using the process I have learned from David Martin about seeking the abundance in every moment, here is what I have learned, in hindsight.

Game Change process

Game Change Step 1. In any situation, good or bad, look for what is in abundance. This gives us time to pause and see where there may be an opportunity that in our emotional state may not be obvious. It also allows us to name the elephants, and to presence what is so in the current reality. Plus it gives us a perspective shift, always a good thing when you are stuck in any way. Often when we are stuck we focus on the lack...what is missing. As you know from experience, this rarely gets us anywhere except more lack and more stuck. Focusing on the lack digs a bigger hole and keeps us from discovering a game change. It was what I was doing in real time in this very situation.

What was in abundance in this situation?

*other people who were able bodied and could provide support

*time (not too much time, because the environment was not conducive to lingering, however we did have time)

*provisions to take the time

*my personal ability (which I did not apply at the time) to transcend my own emotions and communicate or participate in a different way

*opportunities to reframe the situation completely for all of us

There was also an abundance of other energies

*stubbornness was in abundance, including from me

*anger, mine especially

*frustration

*the collective agreement to complete the task, even though the form of doing that was not agreed.

I am sure there were other things in abundance that I cannot see. (Let me know if you can see anything else?)

Game Change Step 2. What was the central issue or issues? Identifying this provides a fulcrum which, properly employed, can move mountains.

From my perspective, support was the central issue. Accepting support, or refusing to accept support.

Game Change Step 3.

Take Step 2 and turn it around to point at myself. The only person I can change is myself. Every situation is an opportunity to learn about self. If I show up differently, I will get a different response. This is the meaning of responsibility....the ability to respond. Its a hard lesson.

Where was I not accepting support in this situation?

Hmm...what if I stopped, took the time we had available, and said to the other participants, something like this.

“ We have reached an impasse, and I haven’t a clue what to do. What do you suggest?”

In other words, I could have asked for support, rather than taking it on my shoulders to provide the solution and feeling completely hamstrung that I couldn’t. (Not surprisingly I have been suffering hamstring issues for the last few weeks.)

Bingo...lights go on...I was not seeking support myself. I was not inviting others into the conversation. I had taken it all on my shoulders. An old habit I am working on breaking.

This game change is a very powerful process. I have often applied Step 2 and 3, but have never invited consideration of Step 1 into this process. It changes everything.

Next time you are stuck, or looking for solutions, or feeling thwarted...stop...and look for the abundance as part of your personal or situational game change.



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